No progress. I just haven't done anything in a few months. I have been busy. There is always some excuse though so it doesn't really matter what it is. I hope to get back on the Search during May. It is so easy to get distracted/suppress these feelings and just push things off. It isn't … Continue reading No Progress
I wonder if my parents ever think of me. I wonder if they love each other. I wonder if they ever loved each other. I wonder if my dad has patchy facial hair. I wonder if my mom's eyelashes are dark and beautiful. I wonder if they are my parents. I wonder if they walk … Continue reading I wonder…
I have been trying to stories of other Indian adoptees who have searched to try to gain some perspective on what it takes. I have found a few stories and have posted questions in a few different FB groups to see what kind of support can be found there. Some general thoughts are that there … Continue reading Stories
I got a response from Illien Adoptions International. Its not good or bad news. They said that they had turned their records from when my adoption was processed (late 80s/early 90s) over to the Georgia Adoption Reunion Registry. Does anyone have experience with using registries like this? I'll be honest and say I didn't even … Continue reading Georgia Adoption Reunion Registry
This is a letter to Anna Belle Illien who was one of the people, or at least her agency, Illien Adoption International Inc., responsible for my adoption about a quarter of a century ago. I have never reached out to Illien the person or the agency but it is one of the connections that I … Continue reading Dear Anna Belle Illien
"There's no manual for raising children. Black children are no different, but black parents raising black children have been black children. White parents of black children have been white children. The disadvantage is nearly insurmountable. The victory is never flawless. And the preparation is never enough." - La Sha What White Parents Should Know About … Continue reading “What White Parents Should Know About Adopting Black Children”
One of the adoption agencies that worked with my parents to help them identify a child was called Illien Adoption International. I'll admit I have not done a lot of research about the organization and thus have not really formulated an opinion about whether or not I feel they are helping or hurting the cause, … Continue reading Do You Remember Me?
This is not what I wanted my next post to be about but after reading the article I just read I can't not respond to it, although I know this response has been written thousands of times. Grrrr, so frustrating. Just a short hour ago I was reading an article I had seen come across … Continue reading Dear Mike Berry & The Good Men Project
I have decided that in my searching process I would like to have some support as I move along, thus I have begun looking for a suitable therapist/social worker/mental health professional to help me along the way. I had at one point wanted to wait until I had a significant other who I felt would … Continue reading Adoption Therapy: Here I Come!
It turns out I have kind of a lot of information about the process surrounding my adoption. There are lots of pieces of papers, many from the Indian Government or court system and many from the two adoption agencies that my parents utilized in their quest to find the perfect child, me! They utilized Illien Adoption … Continue reading What I Know or The “Facts”